Friday, March 27, 2009

Ziggy's Friday Forethought 4: Blessings, NOT Burdens.

*photo courtesy of my Myspace page*

Two things I've discovered about myself in the past few months:

-I loathe complainers
-People without plans annoy me

These two things have always been something that bothered me, but as I'm kicking my life/career into 5th gear, my tolerance for nonsense is critically low. People who complain really work my nerves, and it's worse when people complain but do nothing to change what they're complaining about. I used to have a friends like this, but after many advice seeking conversations with me, they've discovered that Ziggy doesn't host pity parties. Ever. I'm not the kind of person to dwell on things that I can't change; I go into action and do whatever it takes to make sure there are no repeats.

Not having a general plan--you know, the "where do you see yourself in 5 years" theory--is something that only bothers me because I like to be around people who have goals and means of achieving them. I understand that sometimes there are lots of things that may form restraints, hindering you of reaching your goal...but if you don't have a goal, you have a serious problem. My two pet peeves coincide because when some people aren't happy about where they are in life, they complain rather than taking action. BOOOOOOOO. Whining about something doesn't change it for the better, it causes you to go further into the situation and analyze every aspect with "what ifs". I know for a fact that I have millions of things to complain about, but I don't want to block my blessings, so I thank God for the lesson and keep it moving, no matter how much it may hurt.

"Blessings, NOT Burdens". My personal mantra, if you will. If you are a person who is preoccupied with bitching and moaning about something that happened 4 months ago, you have no idea of the things that are passing you by. Opportunity knocks all the time, but every once in a while we lack the focus to answer. I used to be a complainer, someone who just dwelled on every little thing for entirely too long. I've since learned that I have so many things to be thankful for, and I know that more are on the way. Burdens are just a temporary obstacle to test our strength/faith/stability, and by complaining, you're letting the obstacle win. Regain your composure, dust yourself off and go back at it. Make friends with your same mindframe; being around people who will push you not only feels good, but it also brings better results than hanging with your Pity Party Crew.

Be blessed, and enjoy your weekend!


Michael DeAntonio said...

I like you. I was on the fence before this post, but now I've decided. I like you.

A quote that has helped me and sortof coincides with this is "We are the thoughts that we choose to entertain in our minds".

curiouslovechild said...

Just had to say...that "Breakin' Hearts" beat is sick! I want it!

riva. said...

i'm not a complainer. yet, i am one to keep things bottled up until they explode on some undeserving journal. however, i'd rather re-read my past mistakes, or issues, then to constantly reiterate them. be afraid if i buy you a journal. it means you complain entirely too much.

great post zig.


Anonymous said...

I'm soooo with you on both of these.

What blows me is when people complain, not trying to change anything about it, AND throwing a pity party because they feel no one else is dealing with issues of their own. Shit EVERYBODY!

Ziggy Za. said...

Mike- Wait a minute...what the heck took you so long to like me in the first place? It's because I'm black, isn't it?

LoveChild- Thanks! My brother and I put it together. Shoot me an e-mail at and I'll get it to you. :o)

Riv-Nothing wrong with taking it out on the journal at all. Excellent outlet!

Lady C.-It's always funny how people adapt this self centered attitude, and forget that we're living on the same planet as them.